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To Be or Not To Be: What Does “Parent” Mean To You?
Recently, a friend asked me, “why don’t you want to be a parent?” It’s been a long time since anyone asked me that question, and my first response didn’t seem right. So, I thought about it some more. Fortunately, some time earlier, the same friend had asked me to define what I meant by “parent.” […]
Philia v. Eros: What (How Deep) is Your Love?
November 5, 2011
For all women, there is at least one person she is meant to love with all her heart and not to desire sexually. For all men, there is at least one person he is meant to love with all his heart and not to desire sexually. Depending on a person’s sexuality, it will either be […]
She’s So High Above Me: The Satisfaction of Inequality.
October 29, 2011
Recent research suggests that the best marriages involve women who are more physically attractive than their mates. Men, the research indicates, are more supportive when they partner with a woman who is more attractive; women, it is claimed, care less about looks and more about having a supportive partner. Women also are said to mirror […]
Love Needs Something To Conquer, If It’s To Conquer All.
October 23, 2011
I’ve been thinking about my past romantic relationships and I think I see a pattern. In all my serious relationships, there always seems to be an insurmountable obstacle to overcome — like she wants something out of life I’m pretty sure I don’t or vice versa. At first, I thought this pattern might be symptomatic […]
A Choice Between Two Irreconcilable Goods.
May 4, 2011
Some time last summer I made a discovery. I figured out how I could live life as a coal miner. I’m not sure why I couched my discovery in these terms but, at some point, I realized: for this person, for this embrace, for this feeling, I could work sixteen hours underground, if I knew […]
Revisting Personality Type and Gender: A Prerequisite For Survival.
April 17, 2011
In a previous post, I discussed the age old question of whether or not men and women have unique and distinct personalities because of their gender. I discussed the question from the perspective of the Myers-Briggs personality test and I argued, based on the research that I could find online, there is no good reason […]
Revisting Personality Type and Gender: A Cosmetic Distinction!
March 5, 2011
Historically, it is often claimed that a disproportionate number of women exhibit a certain set of personality traits and a disproportionate number of men exhibit a distinct set of personality traits. From the perspective of the Myers Briggs framework, it is said women tend to prefer “to come to decisions by associating or empathizing with […]
Through The Looking Glass: A Pre-Reflective Sense of Girth!
June 15, 2010
In the past couple of weeks, in a variety of contexts, on more than one occasion, and from a variety of people (but mostly from Erika), I’ve been reminded that I’m … wait for it … a slender guy. Shocking! I know! Now, if I reflect consciously on my body type, I realize I’m slender. […]
The Greatest Thing You’ll Ever Learn Is To Love And Be Loved In Return!
May 20, 2010
Last Sunday night, I watched Moulin Rouge with Erika who is a huge fan. I was impressed at how well it stands the test of time. The energy and dexterity of the first half of the film, in particular, is exhilarating. On more than one occasion, I wondered how the creative team even conceived the […]
Desire’s First Expression: So What’s With All The Sunglasses?
April 4, 2010
Does anyone else remember Desmond Morris’s The Human Animal? You may not remember the series but, if you were anywhere near a TV in 1994, odds are you remember the episode, “The Biology of Love.” Why? It’s probably the first and last time you saw explicit sex on primetime television and a glorious full color […]
December 28, 2011
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