Sex, Love, and Friendship
Plato’s Sneer: Love And Desire As You Please, So Long As You Love And Desire Those Like Me
I’ve seen it time and again and it has happened to me. A platonic female friend sneers, “that’s who you find attractive, that’s what you find attractive in a girl / woman.” It took me a long time to realize that the sneer should be translated as, “she is not like me.”
It took me a [...]
Two Songs That Ruined My Understanding of What Women Want: “You’re So Vain” and “The Sweater”
I humbly submit that two songs, one by Meryn Cadell and one by Carly Simon, are directly responsible for my lifelong misunderstanding of what most women really want and admire in a man. Perhaps, I should sue? If you were similarly damaged, maybe we could start a class action suit? I am sure these songs affected both [...]
Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 20 so far )Web 2.0: How It Ruined My (Imaginary) Sex Life
As far back as I can remember, I always wanted to be a gangster.
Oops. Sorry, wrong reminiscence.
Take two.
As far back as I can remember, a girl, girlfriend, critical theorist, or celebrity gossip columnist has always been very quick to alert me to the fact that so much of the female public “beauty” image — especially amongst celebrities — is manufactured [...]
Popping My Cherry At Carleton University: My First Vagina Monologues.
The Vagina Monologues was first performed in 1996 and, since then, has become a world-wide phenomenon and the centerpiece of a very impressive charitable organization / event called V-Day. Written by Eve Ensler, and based on a series of interviews with a variety of women, the concept is simple and effective. A number of women perform a [...]
Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 2 so far )Who Watches the Watchmen? The Very Bored. And The Surprisingly Pretty.
I remember reading the Watchmen book some twenty years ago and I remember thinking it was long, boring, and not really exceptional. But, at the time, all the older comic geeks were going on and on about how great it is, so I assumed that I was too young to really get it.
Fast-forward twenty or [...]
Brazil Nuts and the Sexual Politics of Hair Removal
I made a curious discovery recently. I’m not sure when but apparently the new male “beauty” standard in porn is to be completely hairless — and I’m not talking about the chest either. I’m talking, penis, sack, and everything else nearby: smooth as a baby’s bum. Now, I am not a huge consumer of porn [...]
Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 20 so far )Daddy’s Little Girl (and Boy): A Good Investment in Love
I went to see a solid piece of theatre last night. It was a Chamber Theatre Hintonburg production of Arthur Miller’s, A View From The Bridge. I’m not going to offer a comprehensive review but I can say happily for twenty bones it is a show well worth seeing. Plus, you get to have a [...]
Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 13 so far )A SHOCKING Scientific Discovery & The Battle (Confusion) of the Sexes 101
A woman can exhibit the physical symptoms of sexual arousal and at the same time will not necessarily report sexual arousal. In contrast, when males exhibit physical symptoms of sexual arousal they also tend to self-report sexual arousal.
So implies the article discussing Dr. Chivers work and her burgeoning celebrity, see here. There is a salacious lead paragraph if you [...]
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The Times They Are A-Changing: Another Moment in the Alt-Beauty / Beauty Narrative
Posted on February 26, 2009. Filed under: Sex, Love, and Friendship | Tags: alt-beauty, analysis, beauty, commentary, female sexuality, femininity, feminism, sexuality, Suicide Girls |
I stumbled across SuicideGirls.com because one of my female Facebook friends became a fan of its Facebook group. And it got me a-thinking and a-writing and a-questioning. As always.
Read Full Post | Make a Comment ( 6 so far )In my news feed, the associated image was quite tiny but some of the associated copy is easily read. It is :
” Everywhere you look TV, Movies [...]