Browsing All posts tagged under »relationships«

Between Laissez-Faire and The Rule of Law: What is the Politics of Your Relationship?

August 18, 2014


The aim of this (rather lengthy) post is to propose a framework with which to make sense of and assess the many ways two (or more persons) might arrange and organize their relationship.

The Call of Duty: Your Heart May Call, the Beloved Isn’t Obliged To Answer.

February 3, 2014


My feelings for a person don’t create any duties, responsibilities, or obligations for that person.

The Relationship Calculation: What Motivates Your Pair-Bond?

January 27, 2014


For most of human history, a pair-bond between humans has almost always been a kind of business deal, whether the deal was struck by two families on behalf of the prospective business partners or by the partners themselves. In this model, the pair-bond is normally expected to be created by the agreement to share the […]

Ain’t Nothing but Mammals: Do the Reasons for Attachment Matter?

January 20, 2014


A friend recently made the point to me that a woman’s decision to go home with a man on any given night might be something that simply happens, without explanation, and for no particular reason. I’ve been trying to figure out why I find the plausibility of this claim unsettling. On the face of it, […]

Philia v. Eros: What (How Deep) is Your Love?

November 5, 2011


For all women, there is at least one person she is meant to love with all her heart and not to desire sexually. For all men, there is at least one person he is meant to love with all his heart and not to desire sexually. Depending on a person’s sexuality, it will either be […]

She’s So High Above Me: The Satisfaction of Inequality.

October 29, 2011


Recent research suggests that the best marriages involve women who are more physically attractive than their mates. Men, the research indicates, are more supportive when they partner with a woman who is more attractive; women, it is claimed, care less about looks and more about having a supportive partner. Women also are said to mirror […]

Love Needs Something To Conquer, If It’s To Conquer All.

October 23, 2011


I’ve been thinking about my past romantic relationships and I think I see a pattern. In all my serious relationships, there always seems to be an insurmountable obstacle to overcome — like she wants something out of life I’m pretty sure I don’t or vice versa. At first, I thought this pattern might be symptomatic […]


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