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Love’s Wordless Understanding: What Does It Mean?
There’s a story, from one of my all time favorite books, that goes something like this: a musician plays a beautiful and complex piece of music for an attentive listener. When the musician concludes the piece, the listener asks, “what does it mean?” The musician, as a answer, plays the piece again, note for note. […]
Art Imitating Life Imitating Art Imitating Life Imitating Art.
December 5, 2011
In chapter 7 of my novel, A Derivation of Love, Desmond decides to write a semi-autobiographical novel about boys and girls and the problems between them. The chapter concludes when a friend tells him to put lots of sex in the book, otherwise, “it won’t sell.” At this stage in the novel, which has been […]
A Derivation of Love: An Experiment in Failure.
November 14, 2011
In November of 2001, I set out to fail. I had decided, once and for all, to write a novel. Unfortunately, I had also recently decided that the novel is impossible (to borrow a fashionable phrase of the time.) A novel is impossible, I thought, because it is impossible to capture or represent a life […]
Philia v. Eros: What (How Deep) is Your Love?
November 5, 2011
For all women, there is at least one person she is meant to love with all her heart and not to desire sexually. For all men, there is at least one person he is meant to love with all his heart and not to desire sexually. Depending on a person’s sexuality, it will either be […]
Plato’s Sneer: Love And Desire As You Please, So Long As You Love And Desire Those Like Me
October 15, 2009
I’ve seen it time and again and it has happened to me. A platonic female friend sneers, “that’s who you find attractive, that’s what you find attractive in a girl / woman.” It took me a long time to realize that the sneer should be translated as, “she is not like me.” It took me […]
Web 2.0: How It Ruined My (Imaginary) Sex Life
April 3, 2009
As far back as I can remember, I always wanted to be a gangster. Oops. Sorry, wrong reminiscence. Take two. As far back as I can remember, a girl, girlfriend, critical theorist, or celebrity gossip columnist has always been very quick to alert me to the fact that so much of the female public “beauty” image — especially amongst celebrities […]
Popping My Cherry At Carleton University: My First Vagina Monologues.
March 9, 2009
The Vagina Monologues was first performed in 1996 and, since then, has become a world-wide phenomenon and the centerpiece of a very impressive charitable organization / event called V-Day. Written by Eve Ensler, and based on a series of interviews with a variety of women, the concept is simple and effective. A number of women perform a […]
Daddy’s Little Girl (and Boy): A Good Investment in Love
March 3, 2009
I went to see a solid piece of theatre last night. It was a Chamber Theatre Hintonburg production of Arthur Miller’s, A View From The Bridge. I’m not going to offer a comprehensive review but I can say happily for twenty bones it is a show well worth seeing. Plus, you get to have a […]
A SHOCKING Scientific Discovery & The Battle (Confusion) of the Sexes 101
March 2, 2009
A woman can exhibit the physical symptoms of sexual arousal and at the same time will not necessarily report sexual arousal. In contrast, when males exhibit physical symptoms of sexual arousal they also tend to self-report sexual arousal. So implies the article discussing Dr. Chivers work and her burgeoning celebrity, see here. There is a salacious lead paragraph if […]
Sex Sells! Does Poetic Sex Sell? Two Poems About Sex
January 28, 2009
A simple movement. A simple movement of pressure and we savour ur grip at my tip we repeat the contour’s eclipse and we repeat and we repeat and the fine depths imagined now made real implode around us both I blow my load and you you drink it in. ——————– if u give me. with […]
December 12, 2011
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